チズルママの日記
「場 を読む」 'Read the atmosphere of the place'
2022年10月13日
L 型のカウンター
海外での学生生活を終え日本へ帰国、友人と共に来店
右側のカウンターに座り、お酒を注文したが、なぜか…誰か僕を見つめている気配??
「綺麗な女性だったらどうしょう(笑)と、ドキドキしながら、斜めの人物をみたところ
あれ~~学生時代の友人では…世の中狭し
コロナ禍、今年大学を出、男女共、大学病院医療機関に勤務
始めて小さなお店に挑戦、しかもカウンターの人との会話
一杯のつもりが、2杯3杯、一点ものの飲み方でなく、多用なお酒が喉に吸い込まれる。
先輩のお客様が話かけてくれる。こんなに楽しく、先輩達の話しも良く聴き、
タイミングを計らってのおしやベリ、何度も頭を下げて帰宅へ、将来楽しみな若者達
男女関係無く年輪とともに、自身の体験からか?
話が自分でも驚くほど考えが浮かんで周りの中心になる。
「聴く」ためには、相手に対する「信頼の心」そうして思いやりが、
根底になくてはならないが、
人々の配慮も忘れ、一方通行の会話、しかも大きな声で何処へにも顔だし
「場」が読めず、信頼の心が崩れる事……要注意
Enoki is an L-shaped counter.
A customer came to Enoki with his friend who returned to Japan after completing his student life abroad.
When he sat down on the right side of the counter and ordered his drink, he felt as if someone was staring at him.
'What if it's a beautiful woman? He looked at the woman that was his friend from his school days as well.
The world is small.
They graduated from university this year, when the Covid-19 crisis had not yet been resolved.
Both are working at university hospitals.
It was the first time they had been to an izakaya where they could enjoy conversation with strangers at a small counter like Enoki.
What was intended to be one drink, turns out to be two or three.
They listened carefully to their senior customers, timed their conversation well, told their own stories, thanked them many times and went back home with smile, apparently having a very good time.
From my point of view, they were very bright young people with a bright future to look forward to.
As we get older, regardless of gender, we tend to talk more and more about ourselves, perhaps because of our own experiences, to the extent that we are surprised at how much we talk about ourselves.
In order to listen carefully, I think it is important to have a 'trusting heart' towards the other person.
Such compassion is essential, but there are elderly people who forget to consider others and engage in one-way conversations.
They also tend to speak loudly and show their faces everywhere, making it difficult to read the atmosphere, which sometimes destroys the spirit of trust.
Let's be careful.
海外での学生生活を終え日本へ帰国、友人と共に来店
右側のカウンターに座り、お酒を注文したが、なぜか…誰か僕を見つめている気配??
「綺麗な女性だったらどうしょう(笑)と、ドキドキしながら、斜めの人物をみたところ
あれ~~学生時代の友人では…世の中狭し
コロナ禍、今年大学を出、男女共、大学病院医療機関に勤務
始めて小さなお店に挑戦、しかもカウンターの人との会話
一杯のつもりが、2杯3杯、一点ものの飲み方でなく、多用なお酒が喉に吸い込まれる。
先輩のお客様が話かけてくれる。こんなに楽しく、先輩達の話しも良く聴き、
タイミングを計らってのおしやベリ、何度も頭を下げて帰宅へ、将来楽しみな若者達
男女関係無く年輪とともに、自身の体験からか?
話が自分でも驚くほど考えが浮かんで周りの中心になる。
「聴く」ためには、相手に対する「信頼の心」そうして思いやりが、
根底になくてはならないが、
人々の配慮も忘れ、一方通行の会話、しかも大きな声で何処へにも顔だし
「場」が読めず、信頼の心が崩れる事……要注意
Enoki is an L-shaped counter.
A customer came to Enoki with his friend who returned to Japan after completing his student life abroad.
When he sat down on the right side of the counter and ordered his drink, he felt as if someone was staring at him.
'What if it's a beautiful woman? He looked at the woman that was his friend from his school days as well.
The world is small.
They graduated from university this year, when the Covid-19 crisis had not yet been resolved.
Both are working at university hospitals.
It was the first time they had been to an izakaya where they could enjoy conversation with strangers at a small counter like Enoki.
What was intended to be one drink, turns out to be two or three.
They listened carefully to their senior customers, timed their conversation well, told their own stories, thanked them many times and went back home with smile, apparently having a very good time.
From my point of view, they were very bright young people with a bright future to look forward to.
As we get older, regardless of gender, we tend to talk more and more about ourselves, perhaps because of our own experiences, to the extent that we are surprised at how much we talk about ourselves.
In order to listen carefully, I think it is important to have a 'trusting heart' towards the other person.
Such compassion is essential, but there are elderly people who forget to consider others and engage in one-way conversations.
They also tend to speak loudly and show their faces everywhere, making it difficult to read the atmosphere, which sometimes destroys the spirit of trust.
Let's be careful.